REFLECTIONS | HAZEL SMITH

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What Hazel Smith Taught Me About Breaking the Patterns That Burn Us Out

The Story

Hazel shares her journey from corporate exhaustion to helping others break free from self-sabotage and people-pleasing. After years of chasing validation, she hit a breaking point, until coaching helped her realise she wasn’t broken, just stuck in patterns. Now, she’s helping others understand themselves and take back control of their

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Hazel came in with lived experience that she has found the tools to manage. Corporate burnout is not discussed a lot, and I certainly recognise the self inflicted validation we look for in doing the best we can for others. Hazel’s experience came across, but also with a need to help others. It was clear there was much more underneath to explore.

What Stayed With Me

What stayed with me was how much of Hazel’s life was driven by the need for validation. That constant push, always trying to prove something, eventually catching up with her. It’s something a lot of people carry without even realising, and you could see how deeply that had shaped her decisions and behaviours in her life.

The Bigger Reflection

Burnout is real. We celebrate the grind. If you can’t handle it you’re weak.

In a world of information about mental health causalities, it hasn’t gone away. The internal narrative, the need to be accepted, to be enough. When that goes unchecked, it can lead to self-sabotage and exhaustion. Hazel’s story shows that understanding those patterns is the first step to changing them

A Line I Won’t Forget

“What’s stopping you saying that?”

Such a simple question, but it true.

Why do we hold ourselves back? Is it lack of self esteem? Self confidence? Is it the way we have been raised, to be good, pleasing others, making people proud.

It challenges the fear, doubts and the stories we tell ourselves about why we can’t just say what we feel.

Closing Thought

Hazel has turned her experience into something meaningful. She’s not just talking about change, she’s lived it. Now she’s helping others recognise that they’re not broken, just stuck in patterns they can learn to shift. It’s hard, but patterns can change, you just have to take action. You are responsible for yourself.